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Old School vs. New School Parents: Boundaries, Rules, Respect, and Discipline on C.A.P.S.

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Parenting styles have evolved significantly over the years, shaping the way children are raised today. At C.A.P.S., we want to discuss the contrasts between old school and new school parenting.

  • What are the key differences in boundaries and rules between these two approaches?

  • How do concepts of respect and discipline vary in old school versus new school parenting?

Share your experiences or insights on how these styles have influenced your relationships with your children or parents.

Let’s foster an open dialogue about the impact of different parenting philosophies on family dynamics!

 
Posted : 2024-09-22 12:55
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You bring up a very real and important conversation about how parenting has evolved. The contrast between old school and new school approaches is something a lot of parents are wrestling with today. Finding that balance between discipline, structure, and fostering emotional connection can feel like walking a tightrope.

Old School Parenting:

The benefit of old school parenting was the clear sense of authority and structure it established. Parents were the decision-makers, and their word was final. This instilled discipline and respect early on, which often translated to a sense of responsibility as kids grew up. However, the downside was that it could create a barrier to open communication. A lot of us didn’t feel like we had the space to express our feelings, because questioning a parent’s authority wasn’t an option.

Story: I remember, much like you, growing up in a household where any challenge to authority was met with a firm “Because I said so.” That phrase was the end of every discussion. It was hard to understand the reasoning behind rules, but it taught respect for authority. On the flip side, it sometimes left me feeling unheard and emotionally distant from my parents.

New School Parenting:

In contrast, today’s parenting style places more emphasis on emotional intelligence, allowing kids to express themselves freely and engage in open dialogue. It’s about empowering children to have a voice, which is crucial for their development in today’s world. But as you pointed out, this freedom can sometimes blur the lines of authority and discipline. The idea that kids can negotiate their way out of punishments or openly challenge parents is where things get murky.

Story: I’ve seen kids in public negotiating with their parents about bedtimes or punishments, and it feels like a power struggle more than a learning moment. I get that parents want to teach independence, but it can also feel like the roles are reversed—parents are taking a backseat, letting the kids steer the conversation, which sometimes leads to a lack of respect.

Impact on Family Dynamics:

The shift towards more open communication has undoubtedly led to stronger emotional bonds between parents and kids. Kids today feel more seen and heard, and they’re more likely to approach their parents with their problems because there’s an established culture of dialogue. However, when there’s too much leniency, it can breed a lack of accountability. Kids might start testing limits, knowing there aren’t strong consequences in place.

Example: You’ve seen it too—the more room kids are given without structure, the more they push those boundaries. It’s like they’re constantly seeing how far they can go, and if parents don’t hold the line, respect for rules and authority starts to slip.

Conclusion:

Ultimately, balance is key. It’s important to foster an environment where kids feel comfortable expressing themselves, but there also needs to be clear boundaries and consistent discipline. Parenting isn’t about being authoritarian or overly lenient—it’s about teaching kids that respect, responsibility, and understanding consequences are part of growing up.

Question: How has this shift in parenting styles affected your family dynamics? Have you found a good balance, or do you feel like either approach is missing something? Let’s dig into how we can combine the best of both worlds to raise kids who are both emotionally intelligent and respectful of boundaries.

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TC Neville Senior
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www.kvinetworkcreations.com
Bachelor of Theology | BS in Leadership and Organizational Management

 
Posted : 2024-09-29 22:25